S is for Sitting With Sadness

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If you have followed any of our Mindfulness A-Z so far you you will know that at the heart of mindful meditation is taking notice of what is going on at any given time, without judging it in any way.

As well as taking notice of what is going on in the outside world, this involves paying attention to what is going on within you, what you are feeling, both physically and emotionally at that very moment… some days this can be easy, some days this can be oh so tough.

Our sadness can be one of the most challenging things we need to sit with – in real life situations there can be a tendency to shy away from sorrow, channelling it into anger, blame, and despair. Pushing the sadness down to unreachable depths. But a Mindfulness Mindset encourages us to take note of the emotions we experience, and particularly in the case of sadness, let them happen.

Sitting in meditation with our sadness, recognising it for what it is, without looking for circumstances before it to blame, or behaviours in front of it to fix or avenge, can be hugely rewarding and worthwhile.

To recognise our own sadness with no strings attached allows us the freedom to recognise sadness in others. To develop empathy, compassion, and a willingness to take action to support without expectation of something in return.

It also enables us to release the sadness in its pure state, without looking accuse or blame, and without channelling anger, resentment, hopelessness or despair.

To take time to sit with your sadness is not just beneficial to you.


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  4 comments for “S is for Sitting With Sadness

  1. April 23, 2016 at 4:42 pm

    Very pertinent blog and such an important issue. We live in a very positive world. Society almost dictates that we MUST always think positively about things otherwise we are seen to be undermining ourselves: we are failing in some way. However, I strongly believe that when dealing with an emotional trauma you MUST get to know the negative emotions, the sadness, first before you can start to heal. Jumping in too soon with the positivity that the world expects of us means that we won’t fully understand the cause and effects of the emotional trauma. If we don’t REALLY understand what is going on how can REAL healing take place?

    • April 28, 2016 at 3:57 pm

      Well said Nicci! If shove the ‘bad’ stuff down deep it doesn’t make it go away – sooner or later it seeps out, often when and where we least expect it.
      Lottie Moore recently posted…X is for eXamine What You TolerateMy Profile

  2. April 27, 2016 at 1:13 pm

    This is hard, no. Not only to sit with sadness but to nurture it lovingly, embrace it. So difficult with other feelings as well — anger, disappointment, fear. I try to receive all of them in the same way I receive happiness — without disruption. I am not very good at it. But as my yoga instructor says, “Even if it’s just a thought, that is something.” Found you through the A to Z challenge and I will be going back through your previous post. Wish I had stumbled upon you blog sooner!

    • April 28, 2016 at 3:55 pm

      Thanks so much for your kind words Tony! The blog’s not going anywhere, so please do take your time to have a wander through the rest of my alphabet.
      The ‘negative’ emotions can be so challenging to receive, but often they are also our gifts if we can sit with them long enough to hear what they’re saying.
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